Author: BO

Have you ever met someone who looked perfect on paper, but something inside you just wouldn’t settle? He’s attractive. He has a good job. He’s kind to waiters. He remembers your birthday. Your friends like him. Your mum thinks he’s “a good man.” On paper, he’s ticking all the right…

There’s something nobody really tells you about dating a narcissist. It doesn’t usually begin with cruelty. It begins with charm. That’s why so many intelligent, emotionally mature women end up questioning themselves afterwards. They look back and wonder, “How did I not see it?” as though the warning signs should…

It usually starts with a sentence that sounds perfectly reasonable. “Let’s just see where things go.” And honestly? At the beginning, there’s nothing wrong with that. Not every connection needs to be labelled after three dates and a couple of late-night phone calls. Healthy relationships need room to breathe. They…

Let’s start with the question every woman in a situationship has secretly Googled at least once. “Can this actually become a real relationship?” Maybe you’ve been talking for months. Maybe you’ve met each other’s friends. Maybe you’ve spent birthdays together, know each other’s coffee orders and text so often that…

There is a particular kind of shame that can show up after a toxic relationship. It doesn’t always come while you’re in it. Sometimes it arrives later. You’re finally away from the arguments, the confusion, the emotional exhaustion, the constant wondering about where you stand, and instead of feeling completely…

She stared at the message for longer than she cared to admit. There was nothing particularly cruel about it. That almost made it worse. “I don’t think we’re a good fit, but I wish you all the best.” No insults. No dramatic argument. No betrayal she could point to and…

You know that moment when your friend calls you after a breakup and says, “Please don’t go back to that man”? She has probably said it before. You’ve probably said it too. Because you know the relationship wasn’t good for you. You remember the arguments. You remember crying over things…

There is a strange kind of silence that comes after a breakup. Not necessarily the kind you hear, but the kind you feel when you reach for your phone to tell someone something and remember you don’t have that person anymore. Maybe you still catch yourself thinking, I need to…